How to Spot an Unhealthy Relationship
Technology has made it easier than ever before to find a partner. All you have to do is download an app (or two), swipe on the people who catch your eye, and start chatting. Easy right? What isn’t always so easy, however, is spotting the signs of an unhealthy relationship.
A relationship can become unhealthy or abusive when one partner tries to have power and control over the other. This is called domestic abuse. There is often a misconception that domestic abuse only occurs when there is physical abuse. However, abuse can also be emotional and financial.
The National Domestic Violence Hotline states anyone, regardless of gender, age, ethnicity, income, or sexual orientation, can experience a form of domestic violence. According to research, almost half of all men and women have experienced psychological aggression by a partner. Fifty percent of LGBTQ women and 23 percent of LGBTQ men have experienced abuse from a partner.
Here are five signs that could indicate you or someone you know is in an emotionally abusive relationship.
You feel like you’re walking on eggshells
If your partner’s mood can change at any moment, this is a huge red flag. Tumultuous behavior can leave you second-guessing yourself and feeling scared of how they will react. If this sounds like your partner, run.
They go silent
Did they completely stop talking to you after disagreeing with them? Do they act like you don’t exist? Abusers often use the silent treatment to maintain control and manipulate others.
They’re always jealous
Everyone can get jealous, but when a partner is constantly suspicious and controlling there’s a problem. Unhealthy jealousy can include controlling who you talk to, requiring you to check in, and demanding that you spend all your time with them.
You doubt yourself
A tactic that abusers like to use is gaslighting. Gaslighting is when someone tries to manipulate the way you see reality. Examples of gaslighting phrases include, “I never said that” or “you’re crazy.”
You feel sorry for them
An emotionally abusive partner is a manipulator. Abusers can make you believe that you’re at fault for their behavior or blame their behavior on something that happened to them in the past. Either way, if your partner fails to take responsibility for their actions and always shifts the blame, it’s time to move on.
If you’ve noticed any of these signs, know that you’re not alone. Professionals can assist you or a loved one that’s going through an unhealthy relationship. Reach out to someone you trust or contact a help center and regain your independence.